This question was floating around my home for several months earlier this year. It was the topic of many conversations.
At first, my son got caught up in the typical dilemma: college or not college. He even pulled me into exploring variations of those two options.
Finally, one day he mentioned in an unrelated conversation, that he was saddened by the ending of a job contract for a high profile person and then discussed how that would be his dream job/career.
That got me thinking─ finally! We were missing that magic that made it all work! Hopefully you know exactly what I mean. We were caught in the traditional “other people’s” options. That isn’t how we thrive!
Time for quality questions! If this is his dream career, how does he get there? What was it about this that made it his dream career? Specifically, and yes, how did it make him feel when hereached this decision? It is those feelings that we are all striving for anyway. Might as well acknowledge them in the beginning of the process!
Now we had a goal, an outcome. Now we can talk about options! And, wow! There are so many more options than choosing college or not!
Maybe it is not about choosing a job path and a college. Maybe it is about seizing a dream, a passion, and figuring out if college would even help. Most importantly, find what is best for your teen and stop doing something because it is the “next step” and because everyone says that is the “best way.”